How do you handle friends who... turn out to be pool moochers

[BigDave]

Maybe assign them chores? Clean the kitchen - "Phew, katie, I'm tired. Would you please load the dishwasher, take care of the pots and pans and wipe down the counters? Thanks, I need to sit down for a while" and "Bob, let me show you how our washer and dryer work. Sure do go through alot of towels when you have a pool. You know, it's great we're close enough that we can ask you to help out." and "Bob, Katie, great! your just in time. We're out of ice. The 7-11 is just down the street. I think four or five eight pound bags should fill the coolers."

I have learned that alot of people are willing and happy to pitch in but are completely clueless and need to be shown.

I don't actually know a Bob and Katie, so if you are Bob and Katie, don't be offended. I don't know you. I suppose I just figured out why nobody wants to come to my house anymore.

[Waldog]

Maybe assign them chores? Clean the kitchen - "Phew, katie, I'm tired. Would you please load the dishwasher, take care of the pots and pans and wipe down the counters? Thanks, I need to sit down for a while" and "Bob, let me show you how our washer and dryer work. Sure do go through alot of towels when you have a pool. You know, it's great we're close enough that we can ask you to help out." and "Bob, Katie, great! your just in time. We're out of ice. The 7-11 is just down the street. I think four or five eight pound bags should fill the coolers."

I have learned that alot of people are willing and happy to pitch in but are completely clueless and need to be shown.

I don't actually know a Bob and Katie, so if you are Bob and Katie, don't be offended. I don't know you. I suppose I just figured out why nobody wants to come to my house anymore.

LOL!!!! That's awesome... For the most part, most people I know are pretty good about this. In fact they usually go overboard and leave stuff behind, which is always bad because it's just me and my significant other so usually we can't consume the party surplus. LOL I try to make them take stuff home but usually they won't.

It always seems the "moochy" ones want to come over often... I find myself hiding drinks or food... this is probably a bad sign. I have asked for favors though. The one friend trims trees and I did get him to help me with a few projects I needed on my property, so that's a plus.

But sometimes they just won't LEAVE and I wind up out of food and drink. My better half really gets annoyed. But my giving nature really does not let me get as upset as I probably should be.

LOL

[BigDave]

On the other hand, somtime you have to find a stick and scrape it off your shoe.

[Waldog]

On the other hand, somtime you have to find a stick and scrape it off your shoe.

True... might be time to stop answering the phone. LOL

[Big Splash]

My typical response to these types would be to say something like, "Hey guys, when are you gonna have a party at your place? Momma Splash and me would love to flop over with ya' at your crib all night long!!!"

Be sure to raid the fridge if you get invited

[Watermom]

You guys are cracking me up!

How about inviting them over and serving no food, no drinks, and have no clean towels available?

[Phillbo]

When I invite guest over I don't expect them to bring anything. I know what everyone drinks and make sure to have it on hand.

Same when I invite friends out on my boat.

[DennisP]

Yeah it is bad when the "cheap" friends start taking advantage... I have zero problem "helping" those that are truly "broke", but far too many times you take pity on those people just to find they are just stingy and greedy and wouldn't help anyone else, yet take advantage of everyone else when they themselves could do more. Had one "acquaintance" do that, just stop by (without being invited, his friends were, but not him), flop down, take advantage of the hospitality in food/drink/good times, yet never bring something to pass, no booze, etc... Hit a "sore spot" when he showed up once, with a take-out pizza and a cooler for himself and didn't offer anyone else anything. AT MY HOUSE!!! Again, totally uninvited, a ton of people over, etc... I had people asking me "what is HIS PROBLEM???" since it would so out of place. Kicker is, I just thought he was down on his luck, in a low-paying job, couldn't rub two nickels together... Till I found out about 8 months later that he BUYS A HOUSE!!! With like 40% down on it!!!

Yeah, he was just being a greedy stingy scumbag. I was really pissed since I would always "take care of him" in regards to buying drinks while out, etc, etc... Hell, he is the ONLY person I have ever known who didn't even have a house warming party after he bought the place. Yet he shows up to everyone else places when they have one... Sad, just really, really sad...

For most I could care less what they eat/drink since when I am at their homes it is the same way... But, yeah, it sucks when you get some leeches coming around to try to sponge off you all the time...