How to keep my private pool PRIVATE???

[badutahboy]

I agree with Carl...


Also... screw being tactful. She's not using tact when she tells you she'll be there at 10am saturday, so why should you be bound by any sense of etiquette... Lay down the law like she was your 4 year old kid.

Honestly, if you don't really like her anyway, is there really any harm in hurting her feelings?

[CarlD]

And put a lock on the gate to the pool area--and USE IT!

[Poconos]

If she's gonna be over at 10:00, jack the FC up to about 25 at 8:00 then leave for the day. You won't hurt her feelings, just he suit and maybe hair.
Al

[farmgirl]

Well, she never showed up and never called....YAY! THis is NOT the end of it, as I am sure she was just busy with somebody else this weekend. I have deflated her pool float and am going to return it to her at work. Keep the ideas coming, as I need all the help I can get. I HATE being put in these situations! Cannot believe how rude people are today, Were they never taught basic manners? Sheesh!

[CarlD]

Well, she never showed up and never called....YAY! THis is NOT the end of it, as I am sure she was just busy with somebody else this weekend. I have deflated her pool float and am going to return it to her at work. Keep the ideas coming, as I need all the help I can get. I HATE being put in these situations! Cannot believe how rude people are today, Were they never taught basic manners? Sheesh!

Silly question! Of course not. Look, how many people don't flush toilets in public restrooms. There's even a seen in a James Wood movie where he and a colleague are at a pair a urinals and the other guy doesn't flush...so he does and and say "Geez, be a menstch!" (Yiddish for mature grownup).

Common sense isn't common and common decency isn't common.

[mbar]

I don't know why you would feel bad telling her not to come over If she has the nerve to do what she did, then it should not hurt her feelings for you to tell her she is no longer able to use your pool. There are consequences to behavior - and she has to have a consequence for her insensitivity to your wishes. You are not being mean - you are the opposite - you are stopping her from taking advantage of you, and your kindness, and if enough people called her on her behavior maybe she would learn something and people would want to have her around. As it stands, I am sure many people run the other way when they see her coming.

[CarlD]

But of COURSE it will hurt her feelings! She'll get angry and nasty far beyond what is appropriate, and won't have the DECENCY to be properly embarrassed by it.

Tough. It's what she deserves. I have no sympathy.