No reason to flame you, that is a very good question. If it was me, I would go with a Fanta Sea or a Kayak Pool. Both VERY nice rectangular ON ground pools with the look of inground. Check the AG Pool gallery, you will see some nice pictures of both types. Not sure if you can get something that size at $5,000 though...maybe. I think they are both worth the extra expense if the criteria you listed above is important to you. Check posts by CarlD, he has a Fanta Sea and it looks to be great.

Otherwise, there are many very nice ovals in larger sizes, including those with deep end options, such as Doughboy, Seaspray, Tahitian, etc. With nice decking, etc, you can have a great looking pool that looks IG, but is AG for a lot less than IG. Go to the AG Pool Gallery and browse...once you find a BRAND you like, then Google and you will find dealers, both brick and mortar and online. Check the Better Business Bureau for complaint record, reputation and reliability of the dealers you choose. There is a BBB online version too for the net dealers.