I'm so sorry it's been such a struggle!
Stabilizer=CYA=Cyanuric Acid.
CYA helps protect chlorine against rapid breakdown due to UV rays or other causes. But it's a 2 edged sword as the higher your CYA, the higher the chlorine level you need to maintain, But, if you do it right, that's not a problem.
Generally, with an SWCG, you need to add CYA until your level reaches between 70 and 80ppm (part per million). Your SWCG specs should tell you what the manufacturer prefers. CYA can be added in 3 ways:
1) CYA powder. This can be added via the skimmer or scattered across the pool or, best, put into a stocking (like pantyhose) and allowed to dissolve into the water. It can take a week to get it all in. We ALWAYS suggest using less than you need-it's much easier to add more than remove it.
2) CYA liquid. This is a new product that seems to work very well and increases your level within hours. The main drawback seems to be the price, but if the convenience is worth it...go for it!
3) Tri-Chlor Tablets/ Di-Chlor powder. Both of these are chlorinators that, as they dissolve add stabilizer. They also add chlorine and can lower pH. Tri-Chlor is especially acidic. The drawbacks are they take time to add CYA, and, for general use, don't stop adding CYA when you have enough, and don't stop adding acid when your pH is right.
Your pH being high is also typical of SWCGs and you should lower it. Muriatic acid is fine.
Running schedules would work FAR better if you run it every day, just for less time. It's FAR better to run your pool 6 hours a day than run it for 24 hours every 4 days. Constant levels are much easier to maintain than to "fix" problems.
Finally, (for now), you need to get yourself a proper drop test kit. We recommend the Taylor K-2006 or K-2006C which is an FAS-DPD chlorine test kit. Be careful: There's another chlorine test called DPD which is NOT the same and not very useful. The Taylor kit is available from Taylor, from Amatoind dot com, and, I believe, from Amazon (and PF will get a donation from that purchase--one of the other mods can guide you to it).
Alternatively, Leslie's On-Line service has their FAS-DPD Chlorine Service Test Kit which is a re-branded Taylor K-2006.
Test strips are VERY difficult to read and highly unreliable. If you MUST get them, get the Hache or LaMotte strips that include CYA. They are the best of what's out there.
The $50-$70 the kit costs will pay for itself many times over in the first year. The ONLY test you need it doesn't have is the salt level test. You have to get that separately--Taylor makes one.
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